Have you ever been so completely overwhelmed and felt that you can’t cope, that you just can’t go on? Worthless, hopeless, hating yourself, believing that things will never get better, you will never feel any better than you do right now? The emotional pain is immense, it seems unbearable and you feel that you cannot cope with it and that nobody can help.
It is such a lonely place to be, you feel so alone, but you are not alone. There are so many people that understand, that empathise, so many of us that have been in that place.
How to get help for depression
The important thing is to speak out, tell a friend or family member, see your GP or call a helpline such as the Samaritans.
We often feel that we do not want to burden others with our problems and feelings. We feel that we should be able to manage alone and see it as a fault or weakness that we are unable to do so. We worry that others will judge us. Try thinking about what you would advise a friend or someone you care about to do. Would you advise them to suffer alone? Would you see them as a burden or a weak person if they sought a listening ear? Would you want to support and help them?
We are so harsh on ourselves and criticise and judge ourselves in a way that we would never do to others. The reason we would not treat others this way is because it would hurt them and cause them more harm. Lets try to be kind and fair to ourselves. We do not choose to be low, depression is an illness.
We need to look after our mental health, we often need support and care to help us to do this.There are talking therapies such as counselling and CBT that can help you to manage and overcome your depression. There are very effective medications that can help to treat the illness. There are support groups both in person and online. There are many specialist helplines that can offer support.
Please do not suffer alone, reach out.
The Samaritans- 116 123, 24 hours a day.
Saneline- 0845 767 8000- 6pm-11pm
CALM- Campaign Against Living Miserably- for men, 0800585858- 5pm to midnight
Papyrus- for young people, 08000684141- Text 07786 209697- Mon-Fri: 10am-10pm, weekends: 2pm-10pm & bank holidays: 2pm-5pm
YoungMinds Crisis Messenger-crisis support for under 25s, although over 25s can access it. Text 85258
Stay Alive App- tools to help you stay safe in crisis. You can use it if you are having thoughts of suicide or if you are concerned about someone else who may be considering suicide.
The Hub of Hope- An online resource, to support individuals with mental health issues and to signpost them to local services.
You can contact your GP, your local mental health crisis team, 111 or in an emergency call 999 or go to A&E.